[AffirmationstoDe-Stress] \MORNING COFFEE

"Take time to think before you act." When you find yourself getting angry or resentful toward your partner, it's natural to start blaming. First, you yell; then the argument escalates into damaging accusations. Be aware that when you do this, it only perpetuates more hurt and anger. To avoid painful words, stop and think about how you feel and why. This will dissolve the negative energy, right away, and help you move to a place where you can focus on what is most important. After you're clear about how you feel, focus on your needs. Ask yourself what you need to feel better about the situation. It may be as simple as a phone call, if your partner is running late, or a pocket organizer that helps your partner recall important dates. Next time anger strikes, take a moment to focus on your feelings and needs. Share them in a non-threatening way, to replace hurt and anger with happiness. ©Jane Powell   Let Go + Positive Attitude + Perseverance = Second Chances How do you recognize the second chances that come your way? I'd like to offer three suggestions that will help you see them: 1. Let go of the past. Learn your lessons. . . never forget them, but move on. Learn to forgive others and, (this is a biggie!), learn to forgive yourself. It's difficult to move forward and take advantage of second chances if you are stuck in the past. Let it go. Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt creep in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense. This day is all that is good and fair. It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a moment on the yesterdays. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. 2. Develop a positive attitude and awareness. Expect the best and look for the good. Become conscious of opportunities and very often you will find them right under your nose. Second chances can be quiet and disguised -- one has to be on the lookout for them. Thomas Jefferson said, "Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal. Nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong attitude." Develop the right attitude for you and see what happens. 3. Persevere. Keep on. Figure it out. Press on. If one approach doesn't work the way you would like it to, then try another. Do what you gotta do. One of my very favorite quotes is from Ann Landers, who says, "If I were asked to give what I consider the single most important piece of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high, look it squarely in the eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.'" So, then, our success formula is: Let Go + Positive Attitude + Perseverance = Second Chances Beth Burns   Always your choice When life hands you a negative experience, respond with a positive action. Instead of letting the difficult circumstances pull you down, choose to let them inspire you. Sure, it's easy to become dismayed. Yet the truly empowering fact is that it's just as easy to become determined. Your attitude is always your choice. So you might as well choose the attitude that will serve you the very best. When you find yourself feeling angry, cynical, disillusioned, resentful, worried or apathetic, stop. Choose to use those negative feelings as a positive trigger. Aim your focus in the direction of your best possibilities. Take quick, decisive action in support of those possibilities. You are in control of your attitude, your thoughts and your actions. So choose to be positive, forward-looking, creative and effective no matter what may come your way. Ralph Marston - Dear Readers, " Morning Coffee " is a labor of love and meant to be shared with others to spread encouragement and inspiration. If you share, please be kind and give credit where credit is due and copy and paste or forward with Page Header and contact information included. Thank you , " Morning Coffee" Created, and maintained by: Dizzyrizzy2U@aol.comGrandmaGail2BC@aol.com Copyright © 1996 -2013 " Morning Coffee" all rights reserved. To subscribe or unsubscribe send an email to the following email addresses. Subscribe: YourMorningCoffee-subscribe@yahoogroups.com Unsubscribe: YourMorningCoffee-unsubscribe@yahoogroups.com